Successful wedding planning isn't easy. Not only do you want it to go off well, but you don't want to have a total nervous breakdown in the process. Lots can go wrong, but you can save yourself a lot of frustration, time, and money by avoiding a few of the most common wedding planning pitfalls.
Starting Wedding Planning Before Setting Your Budget
Before you even lift a finger, decide on a total budget for your wedding -- and then stick to it. If you buy the perfect dress but then find out it cost so much you can't afford a venue, you're going to be in very big trouble. Use a spreadsheet to keep track of everything, and you won't make a mistake that breaks the bank -- or your wedding day.
Trying to Please Everyone
There is strong pressure to make sure everything about your wedding is perfect for everyone who attends. But from pushy in-laws who try to take over the planning to the uncle who didn't like the salmon you served, you can't worry about completely pleasing every guest in every way.
Doing Things Too Late (Or Too Early)
Popular wedding venues can booked VERY far in advance. Finding the perfect wedding dress takes time. Wedding videographer's schedules can fill up. You want to reserve these things early, but its also important not to do things in the wrong order. Doing something too early can be troublesome as well! Let's just say that if you send out the "save the dates" and then find out your venue doesn't have any openings until the following month, you'll be pretty annoyed.
Going Crazy With Stress (Or Not Crazy Enough)
It's easy to get so stressed and overhwhelmed that you start going insane. This is bad. But it's also bad to be so laid-back that you only realize at the last minute that you should have paid closer attention to certain details. You want to find that middle ground where you're taking care of business and stayig organized without losing your mind or going into anxiety spirals over what color the tablecloths should be.
Going It Alone (Or Overwhelming Your Help)
You're a modern 21st-century woman, and can handle absolutely everything that comes your way, right? Sure, but don't overnburden yourself when it comes to something as big and complex as planning a wedding. There are moms, in-laws, bridesmaids, planners, and consultants to help you out. Don't be afraid to ask for help when it's needed. Just be sure not to overwhelm your helpers by giving them an unreasonable amount to do, or unrealistic standards to meet. That will just stress out everyone, yourself included!
Skimping On the Videographer
With Instagram, everyone is a videographer now. But trust us...a top-notch wedding videographer will make all the difference in capturing your day. One of the most common regrets for newlyweds was trying to "save money" on a videographer, only to find that their biggest visual for remembering the big day ended up looking underwhelming on video.
Assuming 10-20% of Your Guests Won't Come
Making assumptions about how many invitees will RSVP "no" is a bad thing to do. If you're wrong, it could cause a problem with the venue, not having enough food, or -- heaven forbid -- being short on booze. Plan for the number of people you invite, not for how many you assume will say they can come. When planning a wedding, as with life, it's good policy to avoid making any assumptions.
Not Having a Rainy Day Plan
You'd be surprised how many couples cross their fingers and hope Mother Nature cooperates on the biggest day of their lives. Don't do this! In case of rain, you'll be glad you made a backup plan. Most wedding disasters are totally avoidable, even rainstorms. Just make a plan B, roll with the punches, and take it as it comes!
Ignoring the Honeymoon
Overwhelming as wedding planning can be, it's easy to forget that you have a honeymoon to plan as well. Once the wedding is over, the last thing you'll want to do is start calling hotels and searching for affordable flights. Get the honeymoon completely planned at the same time as your wedding planning, and you'll be glad to be able to jetset straight off on your romantic getaway stress-free and without delay.
Forgetting About Vendors
Your photographer and DJ need to eat too -- don't forget to feed them. Tell your caterer and/or wedding planner how much food you'll need for all your vendors. You rely on these people to make sure your big day is perfect. If they're not fed or hydrated for your big day, you can't expect them to perform well. You'll have to be sure you incorporate this into your planning!