Grooms, take note: you want your wedding to be as close to perfect as possible, if for no reason other than avoiding having to hear about it for the next 40 years of your marriage. Mistakes are common, and oftentimes, many grooms make the same common wedding mistakes.
Thankfully, we're here to share some of the top mistakes grooms make that you should take pains to avoid. Grooms, watch out for these. Brides, watch out for these and ask your grooms to stay aware of them!
Letting Your Bride Shoulder All the Planning Responsibility
Some brides don't want their grooms anywhere near the wedding planning, lest he come up with ideas that run counter to her fairytale vision. But wedding planning should be a planned responsibility, so on the same token, don't let your bride stress out with all the details. Take on some responsibilities like booking the venue, choosing the food, or another aspect that takes some of the stress off your bride's shoulders. We get it, wedding planning isn't exactly the "manliest" process, but most brides-to-be will appreciate you stepping in and taking some of the weight off.
Leaving Your Groomsmen to Fend for Themselves
Check in on your groomsmen early and often. Don't assume they know what they're doing...make sure outfits, schedules, and other components are all point. Remember...in many people's eyes, even a single goofy groomsman is enough to ruin the wedding.
Staying Out Late the Night Before the Wedding
Trust us when we say, the night before your wedding, you'll want a good night's sleep. The wedding day will be exhausting, and the ceremony will be followed by plenty of hard partying at the reception. THAT is when you want your best party face, not the night before any of it happens. A sluggish, hung over groom is a very bad look!
Leaving the Engagement Announcement to Social Media
(No offense to the lucky happy couple in this picture! Just a cute engagement shot we got from Instagram)
Once your girlfriend says "yes" and becomes your fiance, you want to call your family and close friends and let them know. You don't want mom or grandpa finding out about your engagement from a Facebook update the following week! Make sure you tell them quickly, or at least before you announce it on social media. More distant relatives and acquaintances won't mind finding out from an Instagram post, but your best buddies and family members you're close with should all be told ahead of time.
Off-Color Jokes During Your Speech
Believe us, you want any jokes in your speech to be clean and safe. Risking it with edgy, off-color humor means risking an awkward relationship with in-laws for literally the rest of your life. Your groomsmen may find it hilarious, but your mother-in-law may not share their impish sense of humor.
Not Writing Out Vows Ahead of Time
Whether you work from notes or read word-for-word from something you've written down, you don't want to just wing it when it comes to saying your vows. Coming up with what you'll say ahead of time means less pressure during your big moment, and lessens the chances for an awkward silence at the altar. Spending time on it will also ensure it comes from the heart. Improvisation is for comedians, and hey, even if you are a comedian, you usually write your jokes ahead of time! Trying to memorize them without backup notes is risky too, as when all eyes are on you, it's easy to draw a blank.
Partying Too Hard During the Reception
The reception is a huge party, but remember: you don't want it to be one of those nights you can't remember later on. Getting so sloshed you can't remember the night isn't just sad, it guarantees you'll be a sloppy mess during a night when all eyes are on you. That includes grandma, your wife's grandma, and your entire extended family!