A bride on Reddit says she tolerated a couple bringing their kids to her child-free wedding ceremony, but when they showed up at the reception as well, she "just snapped." She enlisted Redditors for help figuring out whether or not she was in the wrong, and by and large, the Internet seemed to agree with her!
Here's how it went: the bride notified all guests that the wedding was to be child-free. It was on the invites and everything. The only child at the wedding was the bride's niece, who was the flower girl, and wouldn't be at the reception. When a couple showed up with kids, an infant and a toddler, the bride says she let it slide -- even though the infant was a bit fussy during the ceremony. She assumed they would have the kids picked up before the reception, or wouldn't attend the reception at all.
But she was wrong. The couple showed up at the reception with their kids, ignoring the explicit instruction that it was to be a kid-free wedding. When her planner approached and asked them to please leave, some kind of argument ensued, so the wife went over. She said the kids wouldn't get in the way of anything, but the bride reminded her that it was clearly designated as a child-free event. Before they knew it the husbands got into a heated exchange, and the bride asked them to just please leave.
Her relationship with this couple was damaged in the process, leading her to post to Reditt's "AITA" forum -- shorthand for "Am I the @$$sshole?" -- where people recount situations where they weren't sure whether or not the other parties had a point.
Except for some hold-outs who thought a child-free wedding was an obnoxious thing to begin with, the Reddit community sided overwhelmingly with the bride.
We think the etiquette is clear -- if an invite says no kids, you just have to respect the bride and groom's preference. But are the bride and her husband partially at fault for turning it into an embarassing scene? Was a confrontation inevitable? Do you think the bride was in the wrong, or the couple? Was the bride the real baby here, or did she have every right to kick them out?