Everyone wants their wedding day to be perfect. It's a goal that every bride can attain, but it might surprise you to find out that it's as much about having the right mindset as it is about what actually happens on your big day. With the right attitude, the inevitable small bumps in the road won't feel as bad. The key is approaching everything realistically. Let's get into more detail about what that actually means in practice below, with some tips and tricks for having the perfect wedding.
More Choices Doesn't = A More Perfect Wedding
Studies have shown that there is such a thing as too many options. Having some choices makes us happier, but after a certain number, it decreases the likelihood that we'll end up pleased with our final decision. Regardless of how well things worked out, you'll always wonder if you would have been happier had you gone a different way, and happiness drops off even if nothing goes wrong with the choice you made!
This applies to wedding planning as much as anything else, and it's an easy trap to fall into. After all, we have more choices than ever as a society...but finding a way to quickly narrow it down to just three or four will leave you happier in the end than considering the near-infinite universe of options at your disposal. Second-guessing is a drain on your time and energy, and poring over options trying to find the "perfect" one will, ironically, make you feel like you made a less than perfect choice later on.
Nerves are Normal
Even if you've truly found your soulmate, pre-wedding nerves are completely normal, and not indicative that your wedding is imperfect -- or that you're about to marry the wrong person. After all, it's the biggest day of your life, and all your friends and family are about to watch the big day go down! Butterflies in the stomach, fast heartbeat, maybe even some nervous sweats...they're all completely normal. Accept that you're experiencing them, then focus on deep breaths and reassuring words. You'll get through this!
For the Perfect Wedding, Prepare for Imperfection
At one point or another, something at your wedding will be less than perfect. With so many factors outside your control, it's just a guarantee. Therefore, the real difference between a perfect wedding and an imperfect one is your attitude toward handling the things that don't go quite according to plan. Whether it's something as minor as your least favorite uncle having to cancel at the last minute, or something as horrible as your least favorite uncle getting drunk and yelling during the ceremony, it's how we handle the situations that will dictate how they affect us -- and how we remember them later. Expect a lemon or two, and prepare yourself beforehand to make it into lemonade.
Let Decisions Rest
If you've been agonizing over certain decisions, it can help to take a break once in a while and come back to it later -- especially if it's a major decision, but even for minor ones as well. Your mind will be fresher and more ready to process what you're looking at. And with all the stress of planning, you want to give yourselves frequent breaks so that no one choice overwhelms you. Your wedding day is supposed to be about being happy and celebrating, not agonizing over whether or not you should have gone with pansies or petunias, which isn't ultimately going to make you happier. And remember, you've already settled on the hardest decision of all: who you're going to spend the rest of your life with!