You and your partner set the date for your marriage and it’s approaching rapidly. Getting married is exciting and frightening at the same time. You long to be with that special someone full-time, however, you want to make sure that you remain happy.
On the Same Page
To help you remain happily married, you should have common goals and similar interests. Discuss important matters such as whether or not you want children, where you want to live, and your overall hopes and dreams. Do you want to travel or settle down in one area versus another? These are great questions to help you plan your new life together.
A New Place
If you are marrying at a later age, into your early thirties, chances are good that each of you either owns a home or rents a property or an apartment. First, it’s always best to find a place of your own, new to both of you. Combining the two homes into one can become stressful. You want your sofa and your partner wants theirs. Decide ahead of time which things are most important and the duplicates you can either sell or giveaway to a family member, friend, or charity.
If you’ve dated for a few years, chances are that you are already aware of many of your partner's bad habits. However, living with someone is different from dating. His messy apartment didn’t bother you then. When you move in together you’ll want to keep your new home tidy and organized. This is also a great time to update your lounging clothes and throw away the sweat pants, holey tee-shirts, and update your bras and undergarments. While we all love being comfortable, no one said you can’t also look good.
Couples who share in the household duties remain happy. Putting the chores on one isn’t fair and it won’t keep the relationship moving in the right direction. If you like to clean and your partner likes to cook and do laundry, it will satisfy both people. You can even divide and conquer when hosting parties.
Everyone wants to have good finances to enjoy a better quality of life. Knowing each other's financial situation isn’t something you want to know, it’s something you need to know. Once you tie the knot, if either one of you has bad credit, it won’t affect your score. However, when you purchase anything thereafter both scores are taken into consideration. Finding ways to restore your credit score to good standing should be a priority a year out from your wedding date. It’s also good to put the trust of the finances in the hands of the person who best handles money.
Keep in Mind It’s Two
Marriage means that you now have someone else to consider. The decisions you make going forward affect both of you. Where to live, starting your own business and when to have children are all things you will both need to decide. Things won’t always work in one person's favor and that’s where compromise comes into play.
More Than Sharing a Bed
Marriage is more than sharing a bed. It’s sharing a life. There will be good times and difficult ones. However, standing as one, together, when times get tough, is a true testament to a strong relationship. The wonderful thing about finding the love of your life is having them with you during times of turmoil.
Now that you have the basics worked out, it’s time to plan your honeymoon. Are you looking for a romantic trip to Greece with a rich history or fun on islands such as Jamaica? Once you decide, book it as early as possible to make sure space is available.