The moment you propose to the love of your life is one of the most important moments of your life. You really don't want to mess it up! Believe it or not, there are a few very common mistakes that people make when they get down on one knee. We can't guarantee she or he will say yes, but you'll have much better chances if you avoid these top proposal pitfalls:
Going Too Public
Going with an uber-public proposal, where many strangers' eyes will be re on you, is a risky endeavor for a lot of different reasons. Even if your love isn't a total introvert, it can be extremely anxiety-inducing to be put on the spot in front of strangers. If you're somewhere like a baseball game, where thousands of people are watching, the effect (and risk) is amplified. If you plan on going the public route, take great lengths to ensure this is something your fiance to be would actually want. If at all in doubt, skip the spectacle and go for something private, or a proposal that only close friends will witness. Believe us, you don't want your love to say "no" just because she's too overwhelmed and has a panic attack during your proposal!
Not Enough Romance
This should go without saying, but you guys: you want your proposal to be romantic. That means that impulsive proposals, or dropping on one knee at Taco Bell, is probably not the best idea (unless you're both REALLY passionate about taquitos.) Make it thoughtful, make it romantic, make it coincide with a special trip or a relationship anniversary. Any romantic touches you can add are sure to warm your loved one's heart.
Overcomplicating the Event
You want to put plenty of thought into your proposal. The time, the setting, the little surprises you set along the way...that's all part of the fun. But if you overcomplicate it, you risk things not working, or your fiance to be finding out too early that you're about to propose. Sure, it seems like a good idea to have your dog sky-dive out of a plane that wrote "I love you" in smoke, and then have your dog dig up the ring on the beach and bring it to your love as you get down on one knee, a team of trained turtles enclosing you both in a big heart in the sand. But is it all going to work?
Make it sweet and thoughtful, but be wary of making things so complicated that part of your plan could easily fall apart!
Not Putting Enough Thought Into It
So your proposal doesn't have to be super elaborate. But you should show that you put some thought into it in terms of the time, place, and overall surprise. Impulsive proposals are for the movies. Make sure yours is special, and surround the moment with sweetness and romance. It doesn't have to be incredibly clever, as long as it's thoughtful. Include sweet touches! It can be simple, as long as it's beautiful and clearly something you put a lot of thought into.
Not Capturing it on Film
In the age of Instagram especially, you want to find a way to capture the moment on film. If your best man-to-be hides in the bushes with a DSLR, then fine! You could also set up your phone somewhere discrete, and have it record video or take a picture every 2-3 seconds. Just make sure you both end up in the frame! You want to capture the moment as genuinely as possible for your engagement announcements. The only real exception to this is if your hopeful fiance has a personality where you KNOW they wouldn't want this moment to be anything but private, or if they're totally not users of any social media. These examples are, of course, and exception!
Not Saying Enough
"Will you marry me?" are the magic words. But you should have more to say! Tell her or him that you've been waiting this moment for your whole life, reveal that you know from your first date she or he was The One, tell her about the dream you had about this moment. It doesn't have to be much, but there should be more surrounding the four magic words to make the moment truly unique and special.